There’s been a lot of discussion of late about a commander’s wife down at Ft. Bragg who was so demoralizing to her FRG and families that she has been banned from participating. The article that first appeared in the Fayetteville Observer went into all the gorey details complete with timeline of grievances. A shorter article in the Army Times gives a quick summary of what’s going on. The message boards are abuzz with feedback on FRGs and spouses wearing their servicemember’s ranks.
While the Drinkwine case referenced in the articles above was extreme, I think we’ve all met these people at some point in time. Watching it all unfold, I had flashbacks to my own experiences back in Okinawa with a horrible command spouse. Maybe it’s the benefit of hindsight, but I weigh all the great people I’ve met and the wonderful experiences against that one lousy egg, and I wouldn’t hesitate for a minute in encouraging new spouses to get involved with their family readiness/family support/spouse groups.
Don’t let the actions of any one person taint your view of all groups.
Well run, functioning family readiness/family support/spouse groups are a great way to: meet new people, make friends, volunteer in a meaningful manner and make a real difference in the military community. I think we’ve all been around the block enough times to realize that bad, ill-intentioned people exist everywhere. When they make you their special project, it’s not fun. Trust me, I know. Don’t let your experiences with those people steer you away from getting involved….because if they did, it would effectively mean that the bullies (those bad eggs) get to chalk up a win.