Presidential Initiative Supporting Military Families

“Today, I’m proud to announce that for the first time ever, supporting the well-being of our military families will be a priority not just for the Department of Defense and the Department of Veterans Affairs, but all across the federal government. ” President Barack Obama (1/24/11)

Earlier today, representatives from leading organizations supporting servicemembers and their families as well as military family members joined President Obama; First Lady Michelle Obama; Dr. Jill Biden; Cabinet Secretaries; Congressmen, Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff and Mrs. Mullen, Joint Chiefs of Staff and their spouses as well General McKinley and other representatives from the National Guard and Reserve for the release of the report, “Strengthening Our Military Families: Meeting America’s Commitment”.  The report details 50 commitments from different federal agencies around issues affecting military families centering around 4 key priorities:

  1. Enhance the well-being and psychological health of the military family.
  2. Ensure excellence in military children’s education and their development.
  3. Develop career and educational opportunities for military spouses.
  4. Increase child care availability and quality for the Armed Forces.

Looking around at the people in the audience, it was a bit awesome. To understand why….rewind back a few months…..to last July when I was among a group of military spouses invited in to hear about the initiatives going on at all the different agencies to support servicemembers and their families.  It was an extraordinary opportunity to hear about the breadth of programs that exist from senior level representatives and to provide our feedback and additional insights on challenges and opportunities.  Now back to today….reading the report, it was apparent that they listened to us (for the most part).  From the thoughtful remarks to the document itself, it’s obvious that the feedback they received from our group as well as others in the field helped shape the initiative.  I think in the past it’s been too easy to relegate military family issues to the DoD or VA when the reality is that military family issues are everyone’s issues.  It was gratifying to to see all the cabinet secretaries in attendance; their presence spoke volumes about their commitment to the cause.  Even the biggest skeptics among us have to recognize the power of bringing together all these federal agencies with the single purpose of making sure supporting military families rises toward the top of their priority lists.  It was even more exciting to read the report and see how their commitment is being manifested into working collaboratively across stovepipes on behalf of military families:

  • The Department of Education will make supporting military families one of its supplemental priorities for its discretionary grant programs.
  • The Department of Defense in coordination with the Council of State Governments will pursue the complete development of the Interstate Compact on Educational Opportunity for Military Children.
  • In order to encourage quality reintegration time, Education and DoD will provide guidance to school districts on best practices for approving “block leave”.
  • Department of the Interior, one of the largest Federal employers of youth ages 15-25 in conservation, will partner with DoD to identify military youth for employment opportunities.
  • Department of Labor and the Department of Commerce will educate corporate America on the benefits of hiring from the military and encourage them to hire more military spouses. *

These are just a small number of commitments outlined in the report.  Here is the full report.

However, government can only do so much…..

“One percent of Americans may be fighting our wars, but a hundred percent of Americans need to be supporting our troops and their families — a hundred percent.” President Barack Obama (1/24/11)

Businesses and other communities also play a huge role in the success of these programs.  But this is a conversation for another post….suffice it to say, exciting to watch the convergence of all the innovative efforts going on out there to better support military families.  My two cents about why today’s event was significant – in a nutshell, unprecedented support for military families across all the federal agencies.  Of course, being the natural skeptics that we are, military spouses will continue to wait and see what develops as a result of this directive, but today’s event was a good start.

* Excerpt from “Strengthening Our Military Families: Meeting America’s Commitment”

Dr. Biden visits Army Wives

Last night, I was pleased to join my friend, Tanya Biank at a very special viewing of Army Wives.  The event was hosted by Chief of Staff of the Army, General Casey and Mrs. Sheila Casey at the Ft. Belvoir community center.  They were using the viewing as an opportunity to recognize Dr. Jill Biden for her work on behalf of military families.  The episode that will air on August 15th features a cameo of Dr. Biden playing herself paying a visit to Ft. Marshall.  About 200 of us were lucky enough to have been invited to join them for the festivities.

After reading the invitation, I knew that we were expecting Dr. Biden to be in attendance, but I don’t think anyone expected that the Vice President would show up to introduce her!  So, I’m sure there will be lots of blog posts and articles about the event, but what can I tell you that the cameras may have missed?

  • One of the most touching moments came when General Casey visited with the row of AIT soldiers sitting behind us.  He coined each one of them as a “down payment on the great service I know we can expect from you in your careers”.   What you may not know….General Casey also coined Tanya in appreciation of her work and contributions.  She was thrilled!
  • If you looked hard enough, you may have recognized some faces in the audience who went by unnoticed by the majority of the star struck folks in attendance.  In the front row, you would have seen the Chief of the Army Reserve, LTG Jack Stultz and his wife, Laura chatting with the new DUSD/MCFP, COL (USA, Ret) Rob Gordon.
  • Behind the Stultz’s and COL Gordon was LTC Gregory Gadson who just took over command of the Army Wounded Warrior Program.  LTC Gadson understands the issues of those he serves because he himself is a double amputee.  You may remember reading about him back in 2008 when he was dubbed the “Giants’ honorary co-captain” during their Super Bowl season.

For someone who could make a professional sport of people watching, it was a lot to take in.  Everywhere you looked, there was another little story unfolding.  The most remarkable part of the evening though, it was genuinely fun.  Everyone was incredibly relaxed.  The folks in charge did a great job in setting out movie style snacks and as the lights dimmed, everyone settled back to watch Dr. Biden’s acting debut.  The illustrious company seemed to fade into the background as the show unfolded.  Reactions were honest, vocal and pronounced.  As far as acting debuts go, Dr. Biden did a good job, as did the real Army wives who played cameo roles in the episode.  After the viewing, the VIPs stayed for a long time, shaking hands and posing for pictures.  All in all, it was a great evening.

A White House Meeting

A week or two ago, I received an interesting invitation to attend a meeting at the Eisenhower Executive Office Building to provide feedback on different programs and initiatives currently underway to support military families. The meeting is part of an ongoing effort by the military family inter-agency policy committee announced by the administration a few months ago. The committee is charged with doing a review of the programs out there that exist to support military families. Headed by the NSC staff, the committee consisting of Federal Departments and Agencies have been “challenged with creatively adopting the military family as part of their own family.”

I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I don’t think I imagined that these senior leaders from the agencies would fill a room to hear the feedback from a handful of military spouses, but that’s exactly what happened. We started the afternoon with an informal reception in the “War Room” of the EEOB. Mingling with the other spouses and some of the staff on hand, we took a few minutes to enjoy refreshments and get acquainted. There were less than a dozen spouses in attendance….I very much felt like the kid that found the golden ticket and vowed right then and there that I would capture everything I could to share with you.

After our reception, we moved up to a larger meeting room. The interest from the other agencies to get in front of military spouses and hear the feedback far exceeded everyone’s expectations, so we were ushered into a big room where chairs had been set up around the perimeter to accomodate everyone.  We spouses sat at the table and were interspersed among senior officials from agencies such as: Justice, State, Treasury, Education, Health and Human Services, Agriculture, DoD, VA, etc….I’m sure if I had taken a harder look around, I would have noticed that all the agencies were represented. At the head of the table, our hosts from the NSC were seated beside representatives from Mrs. Obama’s office as well as Dr. Biden’s office. They were all there to update us on their initiatives and then listen to our feedback. Even though the time allotted to us was short at an hour, I have to commend them for presenting us with a great opportunity to share our insights. There was a lot of information flying around, but I thought I’d provide some of the highlights:

  • All the agencies are working on ways to integrate military families into their programs and initiatives.  Several agencies to include the Departments of Health and Human Services as well as Education have elevated military families to one of their top three priorities.  More importantly, they are also allocating money and resources to support their commitment.
  • There are a lot of programs out there supporting military families and service members that we are not aware of.  The challenge will be finding ways to get the information out to the families and communities who need them.  As an example, the Department of Education has an extraordinary amount of money allocated in a discretionary fund.  Since they have made military families a top priority, they are looking at ways to fund grants that address our demographic.
  • Reading between the lines, I would say that there are deep cuts coming our way [no surprise to anyone who's been paying attention].  Look for more programs to go away.  However, the good news is, I don’t think we are aware of all the programs out there supporting us, so hopefully where one program goes away, we’ll be able to find another with a little extra work.

Based on feedback I received from military spouses, I left the committee with two parting thoughts regarding military spouse employment:

  • As DoD reviews and revamps MyCAA, it’s important for them to understand that portable careers and 4 year degrees are not mutually exclusive.  There are any number of portable career choices (teacher, nurse, counselor) that require a 4 year degree.
  • The military spouse internship program is great in theory, but no one really understands it.  In addition to the website that’s been established to educate HR personnel, it would be helpful to have a checklist for military spouses on how the program works as well as a bellybutton we can reach back to in case we encounter an agency that is not familiar with the program.

Biggest takeaway from the meeting: when you’re out there looking for programs supporting military families, DoD should only be your starting point.  There’s a lot going on within the other agencies that get less attention.

Launch Party

You know those moments in your life you inherently know you will remember forever?  Last night was one of those nights.

It’s amazing to think that months, years of dreaming of a network for military spouses to mentor, network and learn from one another finally culminated in the launch of the National Military Spouse Network.  I planned the launch of the NMSN to coincide with Military Spouse Appreciation Day because I could not think of a better way of spending it than hosting a party for some of the most amazing spouses out there, give them access to some phenomenal folks and get them to rethink the importance of networking.  Whether it’s because we as military spouses, we so often think of networking in a negative matter or because we just don’t know how to get started we often have a more difficult time getting connected every time we PCS.  With over 80% of people finding their jobs through the hidden job market, networking is a skill we need to cultivate.

Needless to say, the minutes before the launch, I was on pins and needles, unsure of how it would be received.  To say that I was silly to worry for even a moment is a supreme understatement.  Once the “doors opened”, people kept streaming in….people you only read about in the papers, spouses you know because you’ve read their books, listened to their radio show or seen their cartoons in the Stars and Stripes.  It was so overwhelming watching all the connections being made:

In one corner, Julie Negron (the creator of Jenny Spouse cartoons), Krista Wells (the Military Spouse Coach) and Wendy Polig (Founder and host of Navy Wife Radio / Military Life Radio) were hugging and chatting away, elated to finally be meeting in person after knowing each other online for such an extended period of time.

If you let your eyes drift left, you would have seen Rene Campos (from MOAA) holding court with MG Michael Sumrall and his wife, Paula from the National Guard Bureau.  They were chatted with former Deputy Undersecretary of Defense, Lesley Arsht and the Director of DoDEA, Dr. Shirley Miles.

Everywhere you looked, there were people making connections.

The Blue Star Family reps were chatting with LtCol Jay Updegraf and his wife Becky who had driven down from McGuire AFB for the event, updating them on all the great programs the organization provides for military families.  The Updegrafs were absorbing every word as they were there to learn more about military family resources.

Al Boone, the Military LA for Congressman Sanford Bishop stopped by enjoy the great food and mingle with spouses to learn more about their employment challenges.

There were over fifty people there and everywhere I looked, connections were being made.  Catching snippets of information as I flitted from one group to the other, I learned that invitations were being extended to provide breakout sessions at an upcoming conference, valuable partnerships were being formed for the benefit of military children, spouses were sharing their expertise with one another and businesses cards were being exchanged.  So much for the negative connotation associated with networking.  The feedback we’re receiving from blog posts, tweets, and word of mouth is that everyone is pretty unanimous in believing that this good ole boys’ network for military spouses is long overdue!  Can’t wait for the next networking event.

MilSpouse Friday Focus

Last November, DoD hosted a National Leadership Summit on Military Families in conjunction with the US Department of Agriculture and the University of Maryland.  Over 150 leaders from organizations that provide support to military families along with some family members brainstormed ways to improve family support programs.  The report from that event is now out and available for your reading pleasure.  At the very least, the executive summary is an interesting read, though it won’t be a surprise to any of you.

Some highlights for you, attendees determined:

The Top 5 issues for military families:

  • Challenges of the deployment cycle
  • Psychological health of military families
  • Access to services and consistency of support
  • Communications challenges
  • Frequent relocations

Top 5 goals:

  • Evaluate programs and build on successes
  • Communicate critical information to all family members
  • Establish collaborative partnerships
  • Address psychological/behavioral health needs of military families
  • Develop and implement programs supporting military children and youth

Hopefully we’ll get some viable programs for military families out of this conference and report and what I anticipate will come out of the Congressional Military Family Caucus Spouse Summit.

Onto some new benefits/programs that hit the radar this week:

This Saturday, the VA will begin accepting applications for the Fry Scholarship program for eligible children of servicemembers who have died in the line of duty since September 11, 2001.   Under this program, each eligible child is entitled to 36 months of benefits at the 100% rate where normally, all eligible dependents would have to split a maximum of 36 months of GI Bill benefits.

Earlier this week, DoD announced their 2010 Military Spouse Intern Program.  There are 120 opportunities available under this pilot program help spouses secure employment with federal agencies.  Details are still forthcoming (a permanent website is set to launch in the next few weeks), though there is a fair amount of information available right now on their website.  The program is open to:

All spouses of active duty service members except:

  • Spouse who is legally separated from service member when the person begins the internship
  • Spouse who is also a member of the Armed Forces on active duty
  • Spouse who is a retired member of the Armed Forces

If you end up taking advantage of this program and manage to secure one of these positions, please let me know.  Would love to hear the feedback on how it’s working.  Thanks.

A New Adventure

A couple months ago, I left a dream job spearheading military spouse outreach initiatives for a wonderful military association. Many people thought I was crazy, but I wanted to create something out of whole cloth just for spouses.

Looking around at all the talented military spouses I know who have professional careers and aspirations and remembering my own experience with the job search in Washington DC, I realized that what we were all missing was a professional network. There are other organizations out there that already exist to support military spouses and they’re doing a great job in their niche, but we needed something more.

Forget the good old boys’ network, we needed a place we could go to meet like minded people; share great, relevant information and network with one another. I started reaching out to other spouses and the response has been overwhelming. Everyone could not have been more supportive or more excited. From all this, the National Military Spouse Network was born. We launch May 7th (Military Spouse Appreciation Day), but for now, you can follow us on Facebook or Twitter. If you’re in the DC area, you should plan on joining us at our launch event on the evening of May 7th. Cannot wait to update you all on the new endeavor as things progress.

As for those people who still think I’m crazy for leaving such a fantastic job, my days now are spent talking to extraordinary military spouses and creating a platform to highlight what we all do. I get to talk to people outside of our community and share our stories to elevate their level of understanding and make them more receptive and eager to hire military spouses because of everything we bring to the table. If we do this right, we are on course to change the face of military spouse employment and I can’t imagine a more worthwhile endeavor.

MilSpouse Friday Focus

DoD’s office of Military Community and Family Policy has come under some scrutiny over the past month or so due to the MyCAA accounts, but don’t let that single program cloud your entire judgment of a group of people who work tirelessly on behalf of military families.  The folks at MCFP also “own” plenty of the programs that we all care most about such as: military spouse employment, DODEA (schools), MWR and childcare.  In the latest edition of their newsletter, we learn that they have recently stood up a new Office of Community Support for Military Families with Special Needs, hopefully good news for the multitudes of families who have been clamoring for more oversight and assistance.

For families of currently deployed, recently returned or soon to be deployed servicemembers, the National Military Family Association has just opened up registration for their free week-long Operation Purple Camps.  More information and the application can be found at their site.  Aside from the traditional camps, NMFA also runs other retreats, so it’s worth stopping by their site to check it out.

Speaking of deployments, the folks at Build-a-Sign are offering free welcome home banners to military families.  I’ve had a lot of friends take advantage of this program and they reported back that it’s an easy process and the signs are wonderful.

DoD’s new Social Media policy is prompting a lot of folks to take a second look at the various platforms that exist out there trying to wrap their minds around the way the Millenials and many Gen-X’ers are now communicating.  For many, this can be a very uncomfortable process which they engage in very begrudgingly.  At a presentation I gave yesterday to a joint session of squadron commanders and their spouses, it wasn’t difficult to read the body language in the room – everyone looked quite rigid.  The majority had already made up their minds that social media was either (1) a waste of time or (2) too much of an PERSEC and OPSEC nightmare to even think about getting engaged and they weren’t budging.  It wasn’t my job to change their minds, but to simply present them with the information and give them another tool in their toolbox as leadership teams.

What’s interesting about the disconnect between those who do utilize social media and those who don’t is that the folks who don’t sometimes fail to recognize that the conversation is taking place with or without them.   Didn’t DoD learn this the hard way with the MyCAA debacle?  I think effective leaders in the future are going to need to understand and incorporate social media in their outreach and communications, or run the risk of being irrelevant.  The corporate world has certainly acknowledged this and some government agencies have begun to incorporate SM into their own outreach initiatives; an astronaut tweeting from space is certainly a nod to the fact that NASA understands the challenge they have in reaching Gen Y.  If you haven’t already seen it, make sure you check out this presentation about Gen Y perspectives.

Finally, don’t forget the applications for the Military Spouse Summit being sponsored by the Congressional Military Family Caucus are due March 26th for the April 23rd event.  Get that in now if you want to be considered.

Road Trip Part II

As promised, here are some pictures of the Road Trip.  There’s something to be said about fun with the girls.  Can’t wait for Charleston!

Road Trip!

Greatest thing about the military lifestyle….you never really say good bye, just till we meet again. 

I think the toughest part about having friends in other service branches is that you may never be assigned at the same location again.  I know with our Air Force friends, we’ll keep running into each other down the road.  With our Army, Coast Guard, Navy and Marine friends, you just never know.  That’s why when an opportunity came up to road trip down to Ft. Stewart to join Star and Tara on the road with Field Exercises, I jumped at the chance.  This could be really fun and if it worked out correctly, I’d get a chance to visit with one of my favorite Navy friends and two of my favorite Army pals (one of whom we hadn’t seen since being stationed in Germany together over 7 years ago).  I still can’t believe how quickly it all came together.

Usually everyone’s always crazy busy, can’t line up childcare, can’t afford it right, can’t spare the time….[insert your favorite excuse here].  Maybe it’s because all the stars aligned correctly, but when I called up my girlfriends, it only took quick conversations with husbands and the trip was on.  (This was probably facilitated by the fact that 2 of our husbands had just returned from deployment so it was easy selling them on the fact that we needed a break and the other 2 husbands are currently deployed, so their opinions were irrelevant.)  Regardless, by a miracle of scheduling, the trip was on!  We planned an easy itinerary:

  • Wednesday: rent a car in DC and drive down to VA Bch to pick up N.  Head down south with a stop in Florence, SC. 
  • Thursday: show up at Ft. Stewart in time to hang out with T before heading over to Field Exercises, then head over to Richmond Hill to hang out with L.
  • Friday: Sightseeing and catching up in Savannah.
  • Saturday: Drive back to VA Bch to meet up with the husbands and chill a bit before driving back to DC on Sunday.

I’ll share some pictures with you all later, but for now, here are some things we learned from our road trip:

  • Did you know that in Emporia, VA you can buy 25 pounds of peanuts for $19.99?  I’m not going to lie, I was intrigued.
  • Most vodkas are not made from potatoes.  Grey Goose is actually made from wheat which our gluten intolerant friend found out the hard way….sorry N.
  • It is ENTIRELY possible to eat grits with every meal in the South (hooray for those of us who love grits!)
  • It is also possible for 4 grown women (and mothers all) to go 4 days without eating a single green vegetable (unless celery counts).
  • South of the Border really is as cheesy as you imagine it to be.
  • Don’t play in puddles when you’re in Savannah, GA because you never know what kind of puddle it is.  (The number of horse drawn carriages around town should give you a clue though.)
  • At one time, GA lawmakers had proposed a law that would make it a misdemeanor to not offer sweet tea in any GA restaurant that served ice tea.  That probably explains why sweet tea was the only beverage on the table at the event we attended.  Though, they did bring us water when we asked.

And the greatest thing I learned:

  • The differences in service cultures and lingo* that separate us are blurred almost into insignificance compared to all the life and military life experiences that bind us together.  We’re all more alike than we are different. 

Cannot wait for the next road trip.  Rumour has it we’ll be going down to Charleston…..

* Thanks to my Army Tweeps for clarifying “household six” for me…even if there was a fair amount of heckling taking place!

Look for pictures in the next post….Road Trip Part II

MilSpouse Friday Focus

The excitement this week follows DoD’s highly anticipated release of their new social media policy.  Amazingly enough, it is quite expansive and states that the default for DoD’s non-classified network is for open network, allowing DoD users access to use new media across the board.  Inappropriate content and sites will continue to be banned (eg: pornography, gambling, hate crimes sites, etc…)

Earlier this week, Principal Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for Public Affairs, Mr. Price Floyd and Deputy Assistant Secretary of Defense for New Media and Outreach, Mr. Sumit Agarwal hosted a

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to discuss the new social media policy.  The release of the new social media policy is quite significant in that this is the first time DoD has had an across the board policy.  Before this, each of the services had been developing their own policies and they varied greatly.  It’ll be interesting to see how this new policy is implemented and how the security issues are addressed.

As leaders check out the landscape and decide whether or not they want to engage, Mr. Floyd cautions that whether or not they choose to engage, the conversations are already taking place around them,  ”Question isn’t whether or not they want to participate, the question is whether or not they want to impact what is already being said about their unit or command.”  As people move forward and begin to get engaged with these new communications tools, DASD Price Floyd also encourages folks to continue to be mindful of OpSec considerations and utilize common sense in determining what kind of information to share, “Don’t say or do anything you wouldn’t say or do in front of your boss or your grandmother.”  More information on utilizing social media sites can be found at the DoD Social Media Hub.

In other news, MyCAA suspension continues to generate a lot of interest.  This past weekend, Representative Glenn Nye (D-VA) held a roundtable in Virginia Beach bringing together military spouses affected by the MyCAA suspension to share their stories.  Back on Capitol Hill, members of the Congressional Military Family Caucus sent a letter to Secretary of Defense Robert Gates asking his help, “to better understand the basis for this “pause,” how long this “pause” will be in effect and the impact it will have on spouses.”  The link to the letter includes the signatures of the representatives who signed in support of military spouses, so if you’re interested in whether or not your congressional rep signed on the dotted line, you can check that here.  Spouses continue to look for answers and unfortunately, the new information coming out is serving to fan the fires.  The surge in websites, roundtables, articles and demonstrations around the MyCAA suspension tells us that this is not an issue that’s going away anytime soon.  I’ll continue to keep you updated.

Short newsletter this week as I’m penning it from the road.  I picked up one my milspouse pals in Virginia Beach and we are trekking it down to Ft. Stewart, GA to visit with friends and check out the Armywifenetwork Field Exercise.  Tara and Star have always been so gracious about extending an invitation to their contributing writers to join them on the road, so it seemed like a great opportunity to kill two birds with one stone – visit friends and participate in a Field Exercise.  Can’t wait to tell you all about it next week.
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